This topic has gotten a lot of press recently. I want to discuss it from another perspective, that of the why behind it.
Thousands of unnecessary treatments, surgeries are offered and done on women daily. Many women are not given full informed consent, meaning that ALL of the options available to them are not even offered. Women often have to make decisions about their health under distress, and often alone. Many women feel powerless in the decision making process because of the way the options are presented, if at all.
So, the why behind what I do, and how my women’s health practice has evolved over the last decade is about these choices. I chose to become a Western Medical Provider as well as a Holistic Health Care Practitioner.
Why? Because I wanted to reach MORE women…and I have been able to. I tried to fit myself into the system to change it from the inside, but I never felt I could TRULY serve women the way I believed they deserved from within. I made a valiant and long go of it though.
So, I’ve broken out. I need hour long visits to give transformational coaching and teach women about their bodies, and their options. I need to not be accountable to anyone but myself and the woman I am working with.
I choose not to have an administration telling me how long I get with each woman, and how many I need to see in a day. That never felt authentic to me.
Call me old school, call me “inefficient.” I saw a system radically failing women and their health, and I chose to take a circuitous route around it.
We must advocate for our health, our right to the healthcare we choose, and all the options available. We need this for us right now, and we need it for our children.
Just yesterday, I showed this example to my children while in a dental office. It was a first visit to this office for my children’s dental cleanings as we have recently moved.
I was asked at the front desk if I had made my decision about 2 treatments/screenings for them. I had been asked previously on the phone when I made the appointment, so the receptionist was checking if I had made my decision.
I told her that I declined both treatments/screenings for them and went on to complete the new patient paperwork. I knew this was not the norm, and felt it might cause a “stir.”
Ten minutes later, she approached me in the waiting room and said the reasons why the dentist always does them. I told her I was aware of their purpose and still declined. I then told her if he was unwilling to have his assistants clean their teeth because I declined, I would go elsewhere. I spoke in a firm, but professional and calm way. I asked if I could personally speak with the dentist.
So, long story short, they were able to get their teeth cleaned, and the dentist very willingly talked with me personally after their cleanings. I presented my views and told him I respected his and it was actually a really great conversation.
I told my kids in the car afterwards that they must always advocate for their health and what they want. I told them that they always have the right to question anything, and they should.
I gave them another example of when I didn’t advocate for my rights when I was pregnant with my son in one circumstance because I was too afraid at the time because of the circumstance.
I share this today in hopes that you know you’re not alone, that you have every right to question, to ask for a second opinion and to walk out if necessary.
When we honor what feels right for us, we hold on to our power. And if there has been circumstances in the past when you felt you weren’t able to advocate for yourself or feel bad about it now, I invite you to extend compassion to yourself. I have done that multiple times and continue to just say to myself “I did my best in that moment.”
My work now is to help women with their most under-addressed health needs in a holistic way. I combine my 19 years of training and continual studying of the most evidence-based approaches so that I may serve women in the way I believe all women deserve.
With my heart,