How Tuning In with My Sexuality Has Made Me a Better Mother

How Tuning In with My Sexuality Has Made Me a Better Mother

Now, I’m not a big fan of the word “better”, but in reality we all have aspirations of where we’d like to be with something–and to us, that is “better” than where we are right now.

 

I’m always striving to be a more patient, understanding, peaceful and resilient mother.  Even though I do my best, and have compassion that it’s not an easy task to guide another human being, I do try to improve.  As I continuously learn to have compassion and love for myself, I can model this for my children and develop wickedly good “guide” skills.

 

So, the topic of sexuality and motherhood isn’t commonly strewn across popular magazines. I talk about it in my work as a women’s sexuality coach and previously as a Certified Nurse-Midwife, but in the mainstream, it’s pretty underground.

 

Often, we put things into priority lists as women, and especially as mothers.  Sometimes my post it notes can pile up into a post-it extravaganza with the things I have to remember–permission slips, girl scout meetings, football practices, and shopping list essentials.

 

Where does our sexuality go on the priority list?  Often to the gosh darn bottom!  Why?  Because we’re not seeing the value in it? Because we’re don’t think we deserve it?  Because it’s selfish to think self pleasure and sex is a priority?

 

I’d like to turn that on its head.  Right here. Right now.

 

We’ve separated our lives into “me doing my life” and “me being sexual.”  It’s a highly charged subject, but it doesn’t need to be.

 

How about if we call sexual energy LIFE FORCE ENERGY?

 

Would you say you could use a little more life force energy? More vitality? More energy period to feel like a functioning, no, let’s go there—a THRIVING human being?

 

If you’re like most women, you’re probably answering YES.  

 

I invite you to think on how your life might look differently if you had more of this life force energy pulsing through you on a daily basis.

 

Could you get more of your to-do list done?

Could you rock your work?

Could you be more patient, more understanding, and have the space to really be there for yourself, your partner, your kids?

I’m not promising it’s going to look peachy every minute of every day. Let’s be real right?  It’s like a constant ebb and flow of emotions when you’re a mama–both from your kids themselves, within your family unit, and with yourself.

 

That’s the deal.  It’s like a roller coaster of life we get to ride on every day. And it’s a gift.

 

But it doesn’t feel like a gift when we’re exhausted. “Over-gived.”  Running on empty.

 

Luckily for us, 2 ancient traditions figured out how to cultivate, circulate, and generate more of this life force energy for us. Though thousands of years of observation, practice, and working with the energy.  

 

Phew!  And you thought you’d have to figure it out yourself.

 

Nope, we have the gift of this right here and ready for us to tap into.  It is through the tapping in with our sexual energy that we generate this life force energy. It is one and the same.

 

I’ve been immersed in the study and self-practice of these practices for the past year and a half as a personal quest to feel more vital, turned on and to enjoy my life more fully.

 

At the turn of the year, 2018, I’ll be leading a group of women who would like to cultivate a deeper connection with their sexuality, bodies, and their sexual (life force) energy in an experiential program. This is for ALL women, not just mothers.  

 

Nope, you can’t just watch some videos and binge watch it to bring it in.  You’re going to have to dive in.  But, here’s the thing, we do better when we have accountability.  We are more successful at achieving our dreams when we have people right there doing it with us, having the same struggles, and cheering each other on.

 

It’s something that’s just brimming inside me to lead, and I will be sharing more details over the coming weeks.

 

I can’t wait for you to experience it with me!!

 

With love,

 

P.S. If you haven’t yet joined the FB group, Nourish Your Sexy, come over and play...currently over 100 women are checking in and sharing. I’d love to have you there! Click to request to join here https://www.facebook.com/groups/362567237441253/

 

Awakening to Our Radiance

Awakening to Our Radiance

Why is trusting ourselves so hard? I’ve been pondering this question of late after some very deep introspection on what was holding me back from truly going after my dreams.

And, it boiled down to not trusting myself and believing fully in myself. In the core, in the depths.

It took some unplugging, silence, meditation, and two friends telling me like it was to see this in its entirety.

 

Why are we not able to see our full radiance as it really is?  Why are we afraid of shining bright and truly owning our power?

 

I believe much of this has to do with our loss of connection with our ancient birthright and wisdom that lies within our connection with the Earth.

 

For most of my adult life, I felt like I was searching. Searching for the next certification, the next level of healing, the next thing to make me feel WHOLE. Then, I went through a complete transformation that changed everything.

I KNEW on the primal level that everything I was searching for was false. That only within myself and within my connection to all things, all of Earth, would I ever find the peace I was looking for. The Wholeness my soul ached for. It was in a moment of intense grief after a loss, where I let everything go, because I had nothing else I could do. In was in this moment and the months to follow that the awakening and unfolding came.

 

It is in our birthright to reclaim this knowledge and many women have already been awakening to the wisdom that is whispering inside them.

 

That you are not separate from all that is. That you hold all the knowledge, awareness, peace, energy, and awakening inside you, right now.

 

It is the relaxing into, the RELEASING, that we can fee

 

l this oneness.

It is in the stillness, the rhythm of Earth herself that we can unfold into the energy that just IS.  It is the vital springing forth of all life. Shakti.  Life Force Energy. Chi.

 

We have been told we need to look outside ourselves to feel happy, abundant and peaceful. We have been told that we don’t have the power to heal ourselves. We’ve been told we need surgery, medications, and to “just get over it”.

 

When you awaken to your radiance, it is about truly believing in yourself, honoring your self, and connecting with your deepest power.

 

It helps us to make empowered decisions that come from our deepest desires, not from trying to please others or make others feel comfortable.

It is about releasing shame, blocks, and things that hold us from our truest potential.

This is the energy of all creation, and it is available within us and all around us.

We need a new paradigm for understanding our bodies and to not feel like we are being betrayed by them.

We also need practitioners who are skilled at holding space, honoring women, and understanding healing on the deepest levels.

 

That is one of my gifts.

 

The big ah-ha was that it was ONLY ME holding myself back.

And by holding myself back, I was holding out on my divine gifts to the world.

To even hold and acknowledge that I had a divine gift–to not just understand deep within, but within every cell of my body, and womb, was huge.

And, I decided once and for all, I was not going to be held back. It took a good 20 years of my life to come to this place.

 

On the fall equinox, I’m opening up my new offerings for women to heal, reclaim their radiance and activate their inner power.

 

There are several ways to work with me and I hope one of them resonates.

I look forward to our journey together dear one.

Activating Your Desires

Activating Your Desires

What is it that keeps us from realizing some of our truest desires?

I believe much of it stems from if we believe we are worthy.

Do we think we DESERVE all that we desire.

 

But who are we not to deserve this. Who told you that you do not. It may come from deep inside–stories that were created when you were very young.

Born out of how you had to walk in the world.

How you may have had to cope with certain experiences.

 

What I’ve discovered along my own journey with self-worth and desires is knowing that is it really only myself that has stood in my own way.

When I fully began to own that belief, things started to shift.

What I thought was possible began to expand.

 

My dreams that I thought I’d have to keep on the backburner forever started to manifest.

Even when it didn’t seem possible, there they appeared.

I am here to tell you, beautiful, that it is possible.

 

Even if you have no idea how you’ll get from A to B.

Don’t worry about the details.  What you need right now is strong, strong belief.

You need unwavering faith.  Even when shit gets hard.

 

Even when you think, what the hell am I doing?

Because if I’ve learned anything in the amazing journey I’ve taken in the last 5 months, when you blow the lid off what you think is possible, you make way for the impossible to manifest.

 

To help you discover what some of your true desires are,  I’d like to share an exercise to get in tap with them.

And, I’ve learned a way to do this as women is by checking in and tapping in with our heart and wombs.

 

Here’s how to practice:

 

Sit in a comfortable position or lie down with your knees bent, feet on the floor or bed.

 

Place one hand on top of your heart.

Place your other hand on top of your womb space.  Right above the pubic bone and rest your palm comfortably there.

 

Begin to tune in with your breath–begin to lengthen your exhale.

Breathe in and out of your nose.

 

Breathe into your womb space and then imagine a spiral–like a figure 8–connect up to your heart space.

 

Imagine this as a continuous flow between your heart and womb.

 

See if images, sensations, colors, or words appear to you. No need to force anything, just see what occurs.

 

If your mind wanders, bring it back to your breath, and deepen it again to focus your awareness.

 

Practice this for as short a time as a few minutes, or whenever feels right.

 

Try doing this daily for a couple of days.

 

SEE, FEEL, and HEAR what comes up for you.

I’d love to hear about your experiences, so please leave a comment below after you practice this if you feel open to sharing.

With love,