When I first heard the term “Breast-gasm” I didn’t really believe in it. I didn’t think it was possible to experience enough pleasure through the breasts to have waves of pleasure that would cascade into anything resembling an orgasm.
I was all for it, but didn’t think it was possible for me. Just those who’d reached even higher levels of sexual awareness and those who had an advanced ability to move energy through their body.
Then, I made it an intention to experience this level of pleasure through stimulation and awareness of my breasts.
But, why should you even want to experience a breast-gasm? Beyond the obvious, well, orgasms are good stuff!
When we connect in a deeper level with our breasts, we are actually connecting on a deeper level with our own hearts and our self-love.
Besides lying on either side of our heart-chakra, our breasts can absorb and also magnify and transmit energy. How we care for them and relate to them can affect how we relate to all aspects of our life–our self-image, our vitality, our sexuality, and our relationships.
How to cultivate more pleasure and breast-gasms:
Begin with sending love through your hands to your breasts. With your minds eye, begin to see white light filling your chest, and seeing each cell inside your breasts illuminate with this light.
On your bare chest, begin to massage lightly with the palms of your hands, using your favorite skin-friendly organic oil (jojoba, olive and coconut are my favorites). Start with massing down on the outside of breasts, circling up and between the breasts, over the top and again and again SLOWLY in this circular motion. When it feels right or after at least 9 circulations, reverse the direction of your massage. You are not massaging your nipples at this point.
Start deepening your breathing. Breath in for a count of 4 with your inhale. Exhale with an open mouth for a count of 8.
Once you’ve deepened your breath, begin to squeeze your pelvic floor muscles up with every inhale, and release them fully and slowly during the exhale.
Once you feel in the rhythm of the massage, breathing and squeezing/releasing, you can vary your massage to include your nipples.
Make sure you have some oil still on your hands and experiment with what feels most pleasurable to you. You can use a feather touch, rolling between your fingers, a pulling motion (outward from margin of areola to tip of nipple), or whatever feels pleasurable.
Let yourself deepen into your breath, make sure you open your mouth wide on your exhale to simultaneously release your pelvic floor.
Ride the waves of your breath, your squeeze and release of your pelvic floor muscles, and feel into the sensations that come up. Ride this for at least 5 minutes or longer.
Release any goal of pleasure release or climax. Relax into the feelings of your hands on your skin and nipples.
Waking up and feeling no incentive, no inspiration to get out of bed and start the day may sound like a normal everyday occurrence; but, what you may not know is that it could be a sign of issues in the inter-workings of your body. You may think you just have sleep issues or that you are worn out and tired. You suddenly feel tired in the middle of the day and just pass it off as too much accumulated stress.
No! This way of life shouldn’t be the case and shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Women everywhere tend to overlook these signs. When in reality, they may be symptoms to a budding medical condition. A medical condition that feeds on lack of motivation, overwhelming stress, and chronic fatigue: I’m talking about Adrenal Fatigue.
Adrenal fatigue is a much more common condition than you might think. The idea is that exhaustion within the adrenal glands causes a lack of cortisol hormone production in the bloodstream, which in turn causes extreme fatigue.
Let’s take a look at what exactly adrenal fatigue is; and, why is it so important for women to know the signs today!
Taking A Look at Adrenal Fatigue as A Medical Condition
Now, Adrenal Fatigue is not officially recognized as a medical condition or disease. It is observed as a pseudo-condition which is wildly educated upon, but cannot be further proved at this point in time. However, many medical professionals still advise patients on how to deal with its very real symptoms and reactions.
Much like any other ailments, there are notable symptoms, causations/correlations, and treatment methods. All of these we will talk about later…
Some professionals tend to believe that adrenal fatigue runs hand in hand with post-menopause stress and accommodation; while others believe that it is a condition simply caused by a malfunction in hormone production in the liver and various glands. Either way, it is obvious in the medical world and the everyday woman’s world that adrenal fatigue causes real problems for real people; and, it needs a proper solution.
Spotting the Symptoms
The symptoms of adrenal fatigue range between a variety of physical and mental aspects; however, there are a few more common signs. These are the items that have been seen constantly throughout the recorded cases of patients with adrenal fatigue:
- Chronic fatigue syndrome
- Inability to sleep / insomnia
- Trouble finishing tasks
- Lingering Stress (Physical, Emotional, and/or Mental)
Each of these symptoms can have a heavy effect on the production of cortisol, as it slows the progression of chemical trade-off. The proper chemical hormones in the body does not recognize or differentiate the need for cortisol in the adrenal glands; thus, it stops sending and producing it efficiently. This leads to constant bouts of fatigue, which then leads to the inability to fall asleep and a lack of motivation to get up and be active in the morning.
As this fatigue begins to spiral downward, it becomes harder for the person to properly finish tasks and goals. With a lack of motivation and lack of proper rest, the body begins to slowly give out and become heavy and tired all the time. And sadly, all of these symptoms and physical reaction connect back to the leading symptom of adrenal fatigue, stress.
Dealing with Stress and Adrenal Fatigue
As the body encounters everyday bouts of stress and anxiety, the adrenal glands let out a healthy dose of the hormone, cortisol. Women who have adrenal fatigue, however, have a lack in release of this hormone, causing stress to build to intolerable levels until it cannot be dealt with at all.
In this situation, it is positive for women to understand that their bodies produce lower levels of cortisol on a daily basis. Sufferers can usually aide in relieving a part of this stress by adding mediation, deep breathing, and/or mild exercise to their daily routines. Having a time set aside of clearing the mind and destressing the body, gives off a happy feeling in the brain that releases serotonin. This hormone counteracts the cortisol not being distributed in the body by leaving them happy and content, so there is no focus on unwarranted stress.
Some other methods include surrounding oneself with essential oils and a peaceful environment. Both seem to also do the trick of shutting of stressful thinking in the brain while also relaxing the tense buildups in the body from lack of good sleep.
Lesser Known Symptoms
Although, it is rather unanimous that the leading cause of adrenal fatigue is stress, there are a few lesser known symptoms to also look out for.
Here is a quick list of signs to look out for:
- Body aches (particularly in the back and chest)
- Low blood pressure
- Low blood sugar
- Craving salty snacks constantly
- Sudden lowered immune system health
- Joint and muscle pains
- Newly formed allergies
- Anxiety / Anxiety attacks and episodes
Sadly, adrenal fatigue can be a little hard to treat nowadays. More often than not, destressing methods are used to cope with the condition rather than cure it.
Here are some successful methods of treating adrenal fatigue:
- Practicing meditation / yoga / deep breathing daily
- Planning your days and tasking by top productivity/prority
- Creating obstacle situations which force you to get out of bed (such as setting an alarm without snooze and placing it far out of reach)
- Walking outside during the day for minimum 30 minutes a day
These methods have been shown to work with many other women living with adrenal fatigue; however, it is important to choose a treatment method that not only makes you happy and healthy, but one that is also safe for your body and your mentality overall.
I’ve been working with women with this condition for years. I’ve recently been incorporating a very potent medicinal mushroom formula into my client’s lives and this has made a tremendous difference in how they feel. They report feeling like their brain fog is gone, they can get up in the morning without difficulty and have sustained energy during the day. And the sleep, oh, the ability to sleep is the big one!
If you’re interested in learning more, please leave a comment or reach out to me directly.
Knowing the signs of adrenal fatigue and how to try and decreases your levels of stress, is only the beginning of the process. This condition may not be medical proven yet, but there is an obvious correlation that keeps it being researched and trialed today. This condition is rather common among women from ages 30 to 60, so it is important to know what you can do to prevent it.
Body Logic M.D. – Adrenal Fatigue in Women
Web M.D. – Adrenal Fatigue
Mayo Clinic – Adrenal Fatigue: What causes it?
Hormones.com – Adrenal Fatigue: Myth vs. Fact
Adrenal Fatigue Solutions in Women’s Health
I was at a point a few years ago where I felt totally out of touch with my true desires and pleasure. I didn’t feel like I had the time and I had lost touch with this part of myself.
Between work, being a mama, and all the responsibilities that held, I didn’t know how to connect with myself the way I used to be able to. And, this affected everything…my mood, my body, the choices I made, literally everything.
What happened to change it all? I learned specific practices and techniques to connect deeper to pleasure and to putting my self-care and self-love first. Gasp! First!! How selfish! Or maybe you’re thinking, “that’s great for you, but I can’t do that, there are too many people depending on me, too many things to do!”
If you are thinking either of those 2 things, then I challenge you to read on, because tapping in with pleasure and desire are EXACTLY what you need to manage all those hats, and keep all the balls in the air, with more ease and joy.
Now, my life is filled with tapping in with my body, my desires, my pleasure on a daily basis. And you know what, the world did not stop, the dinner still gets on the table, the kids are still taken care of. In fact, all of this is done with more ease, more attentiveness, more pleasure. Really. And sex? Well, let me just say it is a lot more juicy, spontaneous, and my desire is higher than ever.
The first step in getting in touch with desire and pleasure is to identify what your desires are and speaking them out loud, and writing them down.
When we desire to tap into pleasure or just to amplify our desire, we first have to identify what would give us pleasure and what help us tap into our desires.
Here’s an exercise for you:
Write down what’s in your way right now? What are the obstacles to you tapping in or receiving your desires?
What has kept you cycling in a pattern that isn’t serving you?
Is it lack of perceived time for yourself
Not asking for help
Taking on too many responsibilities
Distraction—using your precious energy to watch TV programs that help you zone out
Now take some deep breaths in and out slowly, and put your hands on your heart;
Ask yourself how you would FEEL, what are the sensations, if these things were not in your way?
Continue breathing until you can feel into your heart (use your “mind’s eye”) and see what your desires are—they are layered underneath all the “stuff”, the “shoulds,”, the “guilt”, and the barriers. Feel into the SENSATIONS that arise.
Continue your breathing as you tap in with these desires, and really feel them move in your body. Your breathing may change, your sensations may shift.
Imagine light streaming into your heart center, or whatever feels right to you.
Take a moment after this exercise to reflect on what came up.
Write these desires/images/wisdom down in the present using “I AM” For example: I AM….abundant in my life’s work. I AM…full of sexual desire for my partner. I AM so comfortable with my body.
At first these may feel false when you start to write them down. This is resistance. Go through it.
Then, be truly brave, and speak these desires outloud. YES!! OUT LOUD.
This is how you change what resides in your body.
Hit reply to this email and let me know if you did the exercise, what did you discover or if you got stuck with any part! I’d love to hear from you!