This topic has gotten a lot of press recently. I want to discuss it from another perspective, that of the why behind it.
Thousands of unnecessary treatments, surgeries are offered and done on women daily. Many women are not given full informed consent, meaning that ALL of the options available to them are not even offered. Women often have to make decisions about their health under distress, and often alone. Many women feel powerless in the decision making process because of the way the options are presented, if at all.
So, the why behind what I do, and how my women’s health practice has evolved over the last decade is about these choices. I chose to become a Western Medical Provider as well as a Holistic Health Care Practitioner.
Why? Because I wanted to reach MORE women…and I have been able to. I tried to fit myself into the system to change it from the inside, but I never felt I could TRULY serve women the way I believed they deserved from within. I made a valiant and long go of it though.
So, I’ve broken out. I need hour long visits to give transformational coaching and teach women about their bodies, and their options. I need to not be accountable to anyone but myself and the woman I am working with.
I choose not to have an administration telling me how long I get with each woman, and how many I need to see in a day. That never felt authentic to me.
Call me old school, call me “inefficient.” I saw a system radically failing women and their health, and I chose to take a circuitous route around it.
We must advocate for our health, our right to the healthcare we choose, and all the options available. We need this for us right now, and we need it for our children.
Just yesterday, I showed this example to my children while in a dental office. It was a first visit to this office for my children’s dental cleanings as we have recently moved.
I was asked at the front desk if I had made my decision about 2 treatments/screenings for them. I had been asked previously on the phone when I made the appointment, so the receptionist was checking if I had made my decision.
I told her that I declined both treatments/screenings for them and went on to complete the new patient paperwork. I knew this was not the norm, and felt it might cause a “stir.”
Ten minutes later, she approached me in the waiting room and said the reasons why the dentist always does them. I told her I was aware of their purpose and still declined. I then told her if he was unwilling to have his assistants clean their teeth because I declined, I would go elsewhere. I spoke in a firm, but professional and calm way. I asked if I could personally speak with the dentist.
So, long story short, they were able to get their teeth cleaned, and the dentist very willingly talked with me personally after their cleanings. I presented my views and told him I respected his and it was actually a really great conversation.
I told my kids in the car afterwards that they must always advocate for their health and what they want. I told them that they always have the right to question anything, and they should.
I gave them another example of when I didn’t advocate for my rights when I was pregnant with my son in one circumstance because I was too afraid at the time because of the circumstance.
I share this today in hopes that you know you’re not alone, that you have every right to question, to ask for a second opinion and to walk out if necessary.
When we honor what feels right for us, we hold on to our power. And if there has been circumstances in the past when you felt you weren’t able to advocate for yourself or feel bad about it now, I invite you to extend compassion to yourself. I have done that multiple times and continue to just say to myself “I did my best in that moment.”
My work now is to help women with their most under-addressed health needs in a holistic way. I combine my 19 years of training and continual studying of the most evidence-based approaches so that I may serve women in the way I believe all women deserve.
With my heart,
Why is trusting ourselves so hard? I’ve been pondering this question of late after some very deep introspection on what was holding me back from truly going after my dreams.
And, it boiled down to not trusting myself and believing fully in myself. In the core, in the depths.
It took some unplugging, silence, meditation, and two friends telling me like it was to see this in its entirety.
Why are we not able to see our full radiance as it really is? Why are we afraid of shining bright and truly owning our power?
I believe much of this has to do with our loss of connection with our ancient birthright and wisdom that lies within our connection with the Earth.
For most of my adult life, I felt like I was searching. Searching for the next certification, the next level of healing, the next thing to make me feel WHOLE. Then, I went through a complete transformation that changed everything.
I KNEW on the primal level that everything I was searching for was false. That only within myself and within my connection to all things, all of Earth, would I ever find the peace I was looking for. The Wholeness my soul ached for. It was in a moment of intense grief after a loss, where I let everything go, because I had nothing else I could do. In was in this moment and the months to follow that the awakening and unfolding came.
It is in our birthright to reclaim this knowledge and many women have already been awakening to the wisdom that is whispering inside them.
That you are not separate from all that is. That you hold all the knowledge, awareness, peace, energy, and awakening inside you, right now.
It is the relaxing into, the RELEASING, that we can fee
l this oneness.
It is in the stillness, the rhythm of Earth herself that we can unfold into the energy that just IS. It is the vital springing forth of all life. Shakti. Life Force Energy. Chi.
We have been told we need to look outside ourselves to feel happy, abundant and peaceful. We have been told that we don’t have the power to heal ourselves. We’ve been told we need surgery, medications, and to “just get over it”.
When you awaken to your radiance, it is about truly believing in yourself, honoring your self, and connecting with your deepest power.
It helps us to make empowered decisions that come from our deepest desires, not from trying to please others or make others feel comfortable.
It is about releasing shame, blocks, and things that hold us from our truest potential.
This is the energy of all creation, and it is available within us and all around us.
We need a new paradigm for understanding our bodies and to not feel like we are being betrayed by them.
We also need practitioners who are skilled at holding space, honoring women, and understanding healing on the deepest levels.
That is one of my gifts.
The big ah-ha was that it was ONLY ME holding myself back.
And by holding myself back, I was holding out on my divine gifts to the world.
To even hold and acknowledge that I had a divine gift–to not just understand deep within, but within every cell of my body, and womb, was huge.
And, I decided once and for all, I was not going to be held back. It took a good 20 years of my life to come to this place.
On the fall equinox, I’m opening up my new offerings for women to heal, reclaim their radiance and activate their inner power.
There are several ways to work with me and I hope one of them resonates.
I look forward to our journey together dear one.