Activating Your Desires

Activating Your Desires

What is it that keeps us from realizing some of our truest desires?

I believe much of it stems from if we believe we are worthy.

Do we think we DESERVE all that we desire.

 

But who are we not to deserve this. Who told you that you do not. It may come from deep inside–stories that were created when you were very young.

Born out of how you had to walk in the world.

How you may have had to cope with certain experiences.

 

What I’ve discovered along my own journey with self-worth and desires is knowing that is it really only myself that has stood in my own way.

When I fully began to own that belief, things started to shift.

What I thought was possible began to expand.

 

My dreams that I thought I’d have to keep on the backburner forever started to manifest.

Even when it didn’t seem possible, there they appeared.

I am here to tell you, beautiful, that it is possible.

 

Even if you have no idea how you’ll get from A to B.

Don’t worry about the details.  What you need right now is strong, strong belief.

You need unwavering faith.  Even when shit gets hard.

 

Even when you think, what the hell am I doing?

Because if I’ve learned anything in the amazing journey I’ve taken in the last 5 months, when you blow the lid off what you think is possible, you make way for the impossible to manifest.

 

To help you discover what some of your true desires are,  I’d like to share an exercise to get in tap with them.

And, I’ve learned a way to do this as women is by checking in and tapping in with our heart and wombs.

 

Here’s how to practice:

 

Sit in a comfortable position or lie down with your knees bent, feet on the floor or bed.

 

Place one hand on top of your heart.

Place your other hand on top of your womb space.  Right above the pubic bone and rest your palm comfortably there.

 

Begin to tune in with your breath–begin to lengthen your exhale.

Breathe in and out of your nose.

 

Breathe into your womb space and then imagine a spiral–like a figure 8–connect up to your heart space.

 

Imagine this as a continuous flow between your heart and womb.

 

See if images, sensations, colors, or words appear to you. No need to force anything, just see what occurs.

 

If your mind wanders, bring it back to your breath, and deepen it again to focus your awareness.

 

Practice this for as short a time as a few minutes, or whenever feels right.

 

Try doing this daily for a couple of days.

 

SEE, FEEL, and HEAR what comes up for you.

I’d love to hear about your experiences, so please leave a comment below after you practice this if you feel open to sharing.

With love,

 

Getting in Touch with Desire

Getting in Touch with Desire

I was at a point a few years ago where I felt totally out of touch with my true desires and pleasure. I didn’t feel like I had the time and I had lost touch with this part of myself.

Between work, being a mama, and all the responsibilities that held, I didn’t know how to connect with myself the way I used to be able to.  And, this affected everything…my mood, my body, the choices I made, literally everything.

What happened to change it all?  I learned specific practices and techniques to connect deeper to pleasure and to putting my self-care and self-love first. Gasp! First!! How selfish! Or maybe you’re thinking, “that’s great for you, but I can’t do that, there are too many people depending on me, too many things to do!”

If you are thinking either of those 2 things, then I challenge you to read on, because tapping in with pleasure and desire are EXACTLY what you need to manage all those hats, and keep all the balls in the air, with more ease and joy.

Now, my life is filled with tapping in with my body, my desires, my pleasure on a daily basis. And you know what, the world did not stop, the dinner still gets on the table, the kids are still taken care of. In fact, all of this is done with more ease, more attentiveness, more pleasure.  Really.  And sex?  Well, let me just say it is a lot more juicy, spontaneous, and my desire is higher than ever.

 

The first step in getting in touch with desire and pleasure is to identify what your desires are and speaking them out loud, and writing them down.

 

When we desire to tap into pleasure or just to amplify our desire, we first have to identify what would give us pleasure and what help us tap into our desires.

 

Here’s an exercise for you:

Write down what’s in your way right now? What are the obstacles to you tapping in or receiving your desires?

What has kept you cycling in a pattern that isn’t serving you?

 

Is it lack of perceived time for yourself

Not asking for help

Taking on too many responsibilities

Feeling overworked

Distraction—using your precious energy to watch TV programs that help you zone out

 

Now take some deep breaths in and out slowly, and put your hands on your heart;

Ask yourself how you would FEEL, what are the sensations, if these things were not in your way?

Continue breathing until you can feel into your heart (use your “mind’s eye”) and see what your desires are—they are layered underneath all the “stuff”, the “shoulds,”, the “guilt”, and the barriers. Feel into the SENSATIONS that arise.

Continue your breathing as you tap in with these desires, and really feel them move in your body.  Your breathing may change, your sensations may shift.

Imagine light streaming into your heart center, or whatever feels right to you.

 

Take a moment after this exercise to reflect on what came up.

Write these desires/images/wisdom down in the present using “I AM”  For example: I AM….abundant in my life’s work. I AM…full of sexual desire for my partner.  I AM so comfortable with my body.

 

At first these may feel false when you start to write them down. This is resistance.  Go through it. 

Then, be truly brave, and speak these desires outloud.  YES!! OUT LOUD.

This is how you change what resides in your body.

 

Hit reply to this email and let me know if you did the exercise, what did you discover or if you got stuck with any part! I’d love to hear from you!

CONNECTING WITH FULL MOON ENERGY

CONNECTING WITH FULL MOON ENERGY

I have noticed the pull of the moon’s energy on me since my late teens and early 20’s. This is when I first starting studying women’s health and spirituality.

Women have had these collective experiences around the moon for centuries, but moon wisdom is becoming lost in the modern world.

 

 

Full moons have always had a profound effect on me. I notice an even further awakening of my feminine energy, sexual power, and connection with spirit. I used to joke with my girlfriends in college—“watch out!” if we were going out on a full moon night.  Meaning watch out what you attract and draw in, because the sexual energy was so potent.

 

Then, as a midwife, and a nurse on a labor and delivery hospital unit, I certainly saw the direct relationship between the full moon and babies being born.  It’s not a joke—babies definitely chose to be born more often on full moons. When I would look up at the sky on full moon time, I’d say, I’m about to get really busy!

 

The moon cycles can mirror our own cycles as women. When my moon cycle is on sync with the moon cycle, I personally feel more aligned. When they match up for me, I know I am on the right path. This happened for me this month.  Just as the full moon is pulling in, my bleeding begins slightly, and will flow with the full moon rising.

 

Full moons are about letting go of what is no longer serving us. It is a time of extreme creativity, power, and amplification.  It is about purging and letting go of old stories that are weighing us down. That is why I honor the moon time around the full moon cycle. Our moon time (our menstrual bleeding) is a time of purification and releasing.

 

What feels like it is no longer serving you. What stories, what limiting beliefs, what past creations, ways of being, people, and paths are no longer aligned?

 

Here is a way to tap in with this full moon energy and release so you can make space for the new at the FULL MOON time:

If possible, stand outside in a place where you can see the full moon (or do inside in a comfortable space)

Begin to breathe slowly, deepening your exhale with each breath

Imagine white light coming down from the crown of your head and then flowing through the rest of your body down into the Earth. Visualize this cycle for several breaths.

Imagine red light coming up from the depths of the earth, traveling up through your feet and legs and then to your pelvis and womb.  Let the red light cleanse and collect any stored energy.

Place one hand on your lower belly, the other on your heart center.

Continue to cycle the white light through your body and the red light in your pelvis, circling.

Tune in with your heart. What do you ache to let go of. What do you feel limited by? What is holding you back?

Send whatever you are ready to let go of down from your heart, into you’re the circulating heat in your lower belly.

Let this red light spiral down your legs and back down to the depths of the earth.

Let her recycle this energy.

Continue to draw down the white light from the moon into your body. Visualize it clearing out anything that you still haven’t let go of.  Circle this white light throughout your body.

End the visualization by putting your hands over your heart or up to the sky and give thanks. Give thanks for the ability to let go, to release, and therefore to grow.

With love,