How Tuning In with My Sexuality Has Made Me a Better Mother

How Tuning In with My Sexuality Has Made Me a Better Mother

Now, I’m not a big fan of the word “better”, but in reality we all have aspirations of where we’d like to be with something–and to us, that is “better” than where we are right now.


I’m always striving to be a more patient, understanding, peaceful and resilient mother.  Even though I do my best, and have compassion that it’s not an easy task to guide another human being, I do try to improve.  As I continuously learn to have compassion and love for myself, I can model this for my children and develop wickedly good “guide” skills.


So, the topic of sexuality and motherhood isn’t commonly strewn across popular magazines. I talk about it in my work as a women’s sexuality coach and previously as a Certified Nurse-Midwife, but in the mainstream, it’s pretty underground.


Often, we put things into priority lists as women, and especially as mothers.  Sometimes my post it notes can pile up into a post-it extravaganza with the things I have to remember–permission slips, girl scout meetings, football practices, and shopping list essentials.


Where does our sexuality go on the priority list?  Often to the gosh darn bottom!  Why?  Because we’re not seeing the value in it? Because we’re don’t think we deserve it?  Because it’s selfish to think self pleasure and sex is a priority?


I’d like to turn that on its head.  Right here. Right now.


We’ve separated our lives into “me doing my life” and “me being sexual.”  It’s a highly charged subject, but it doesn’t need to be.


How about if we call sexual energy LIFE FORCE ENERGY?


Would you say you could use a little more life force energy? More vitality? More energy period to feel like a functioning, no, let’s go there—a THRIVING human being?


If you’re like most women, you’re probably answering YES.  


I invite you to think on how your life might look differently if you had more of this life force energy pulsing through you on a daily basis.


Could you get more of your to-do list done?

Could you rock your work?

Could you be more patient, more understanding, and have the space to really be there for yourself, your partner, your kids?

I’m not promising it’s going to look peachy every minute of every day. Let’s be real right?  It’s like a constant ebb and flow of emotions when you’re a mama–both from your kids themselves, within your family unit, and with yourself.


That’s the deal.  It’s like a roller coaster of life we get to ride on every day. And it’s a gift.


But it doesn’t feel like a gift when we’re exhausted. “Over-gived.”  Running on empty.


Luckily for us, 2 ancient traditions figured out how to cultivate, circulate, and generate more of this life force energy for us. Though thousands of years of observation, practice, and working with the energy.  


Phew!  And you thought you’d have to figure it out yourself.


Nope, we have the gift of this right here and ready for us to tap into.  It is through the tapping in with our sexual energy that we generate this life force energy. It is one and the same.


I’ve been immersed in the study and self-practice of these practices for the past year and a half as a personal quest to feel more vital, turned on and to enjoy my life more fully.


At the turn of the year, 2018, I’ll be leading a group of women who would like to cultivate a deeper connection with their sexuality, bodies, and their sexual (life force) energy in an experiential program. This is for ALL women, not just mothers.  


Nope, you can’t just watch some videos and binge watch it to bring it in.  You’re going to have to dive in.  But, here’s the thing, we do better when we have accountability.  We are more successful at achieving our dreams when we have people right there doing it with us, having the same struggles, and cheering each other on.


It’s something that’s just brimming inside me to lead, and I will be sharing more details over the coming weeks.


I can’t wait for you to experience it with me!!


With love,


P.S. If you haven’t yet joined the FB group, Nourish Your Sexy, come over and play...currently over 100 women are checking in and sharing. I’d love to have you there! Click to request to join here


Saying YES to your Sexuality!

Saying YES to your Sexuality!

In today’s unbalanced world, with lots about sexuality (and sexual harassment and shame) coming to the surface in the mainstream, I wanted to present something that speaks to why I say yes to my sexuality.

It’s time for us as women to really dive deep into our sexuality, clear the shame (either from personal experiences, or just the collective), and reclaim our feminine power.

I see the parallel between how we relate to our Earth, and our own sexuality. If we don’t take the time to nurture it in positive ways, we see the effects, and its not positive.

So, I invite you to grab a cuppa tea, a cuppa joe, or a glass of wine and say yes to your sexuality by watching this video! It was my latest Facebook Live.

With love,


What You Need to Know about How Stress Affects Your Thyroid & Why Your Thyroid Condition Might be Going Undiagnosed

What You Need to Know about How Stress Affects Your Thyroid & Why Your Thyroid Condition Might be Going Undiagnosed

The American Thyroid Association states that 1 in 8 women will develop a thyroid disorder, and women are 5 to 8 times more likely than men to develop thyroid problems.

These are just the numbers of people diagnosed, but many are going undiagnosed. Why? Because clinicians have different views on what to test for, when to test and sometimes just ignore women’s concerns about their changing health.

I bet you know someone who has a thyroid disorder, or maybe you have one yourself, right. And for women over 40, the rate of thyroid disorders increases.

So, what’s stress got to do with it your thyroid?

When our brain is getting triggered by stressors, it releases something called Corticotropin Releasing Hormone, CRH.  When CRH is high, it actually inhibits thyroid function, specifically Thyroid Stimulating Hormone. With less TSH, your thyroid is producing less of the active thyroid hormones that keep all of your metabolic functions in check.  

Result? Possibly hypothyroidism, which looks like weight gain, brain fog, brittle nails, dry skin, decreased libido, constipation, inability to concentrate, insomnia and menstrual irregularities.

I’ve made you a video to explain the basics of this and what I think you REALLY need to know!

I talk about the science behind how stress negatively affects your thyroid function in this video as well as why many women are going undiagnosed. I also talk about what to ask for when you get tested and why you may run into resistance. You can watch it here:

If you’re struggling with a thyroid disorder, think you are, or just know your hormones are out of balance, then we should chat. I offer complimentary 30 minute calls to talk about your health concerns and to see if my offerings for hormonal health consultations are the right fit for you.

You can learn more about that here: Women’s Hormonal Health Consultations

Why we need to advocate for our health as women

Why we need to advocate for our health as women

This topic has gotten a lot of press recently. I want to discuss it from another perspective, that of the why behind it.


Thousands of unnecessary treatments, surgeries are offered and done on women daily. Many women are not given full informed consent, meaning that ALL of the options available to them are not even offered.  Women often have to make decisions about their health under distress, and often alone.  Many women feel powerless in the decision making process because of the way the options are presented, if at all.


So, the why behind what I do, and how my women’s health practice has evolved over the last decade is about these choices. I chose to become a Western Medical Provider as well as a Holistic Health Care Practitioner.


Why? Because I wanted to reach MORE women…and I have been able to. I tried to fit myself into the system to change it from the inside, but I never felt I could TRULY serve women the way I believed they deserved from within. I made a valiant and long go of it though.


So, I’ve broken out. I need hour long visits to give transformational coaching and teach women about their bodies, and their options. I need to not be accountable to anyone but myself and the woman I am working with.


I choose not to have an administration telling me how long I get with each woman, and how many I need to see in a day. That never felt authentic to me.  


Call me old school, call me “inefficient.”  I saw a system radically failing women and their health, and I chose to take a circuitous route around it.


We must advocate for our health, our right to the healthcare we choose, and all the options available. We need this for us right now, and we need it for our children.


Just yesterday, I showed this example to my children while in a dental office. It was a first visit to this office for my children’s dental cleanings as we have recently moved.


I was asked at the front desk if I had made my decision about  2 treatments/screenings for them. I had been asked previously on the phone when I made the appointment, so the receptionist was checking if I had made my decision.


I told her that I declined both treatments/screenings for them and went on to complete the new patient paperwork. I knew this was not the norm, and felt it might cause a “stir.”


Ten minutes later, she approached me in the waiting room and said the reasons why the dentist always does them. I told her I was aware of their purpose and still declined. I then told her if he was unwilling to have his assistants clean their teeth because I declined, I would go elsewhere.  I spoke in a firm, but professional and calm way.  I asked if I could personally speak with the dentist.


So, long story short, they were able to get their teeth cleaned, and the dentist very willingly talked with me personally after their cleanings. I presented my views and told him I respected his and it was actually a really great conversation.


I told my kids in the car afterwards that they must always advocate for their health and what they want. I told them that they always have the right to question anything, and they should.  


I gave them another example of when I didn’t advocate for my rights when I was pregnant with my son in one circumstance because I was too afraid at the time because of the circumstance.


I share this today in hopes that you know you’re not alone, that you have every right to question, to ask for a second opinion and to walk out if necessary.


When we honor what feels right for us, we hold on to our power. And if there has been circumstances in the past when you felt you weren’t able to advocate for yourself or feel bad about it now, I invite you to extend compassion to yourself.  I have done that multiple times and continue to just say to myself “I did my best in that moment.”


My work now is to help women with their most under-addressed health needs in a holistic way. I combine my 19 years of training and continual studying of the most evidence-based approaches so that I may serve women in the way I believe all women deserve.

With my heart,